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Selling Out Revisited

November 16, 2010

Since posting about the Stranger, I’ve been reflecting more on the idea of selling out and how we end up in a position where the stranger can convince us to do so.

Growing up female in our culture, there are ways our power is diminished through the ways society is actively turned against the feminine. By the time we are teenagers, we have received the message countless times, in many different ways, that as women we need to look a certain way, act a certain way, and be a certain way, in order to be acceptable. If we do not conform, if in fact we can’t because we don’t naturally look the way we are supposed to or it is against our nature to act in the way we are taught we should, then we are told we will not get what we want or need, and ultimately we will not be happy. Of course, we have to buy into these messages in order for them to have any affect on our power; yet many of us do because how can we escape when they surround us? As children we are socialized through what we take in from the culture around us, which includes not only our parents and those close to us, but also our teachers, peers, and the backdrop of all our lives, the media.

This applies in a much more general sense as well, of course. Any time we buy into belief systems that limit us, we sell ourselves out to a vision that is not authentically who we are. When there is any area of our life that we are unhappy with—career, finances, relationship—we can look to see what underlying belief we have about that area. We might believe that we don’t deserve a great relationship, or that we can have a career or a relationship, but not both. Perhaps we believe that it isn’t possible to make money doing something that we love, or that making money itself is not spiritual and should be beneath us. When we believe an idea that limits our power, we sell out to a smaller vision.

The stranger in Ocean Rose is the instigator of the sale. That stranger for us might initially have been someone in our lives, but now lives inside of us. As Kristi pointed out in her comment to the previous post, the stranger might also show up repeatedly in different forms in our lives. In this case, he or she can also be a catalyst, helping us see the pattern we are in and waking us up to the need for reclaiming our power.

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  1. November 17, 2010 2:05 pm

    Selling ourselves out takes our power from us and gives it someone or something else,which in turn slowly kills us. Our spirit begins to die, our life becomes a struggle and our body develops disease. It’s all connected. And very true that to see what needs to be healed internally, we only need to look at the mirror of our outer reality.

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